I was playing with photoshop, lowered a pic of the car, she said she'll divorce me if I lower the passat.
Is this a control issue? :crazy:
Is this a control issue? :crazy:
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worst case senario, you can always just buy this:
http://www.clubb5.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=87489
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this coming from a woman! case closed! 8)glxpassat said:
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YES!
Tell her if she buys one more pair of shoes, you will divorce her. :wink:
Sounds like she is trying to lay the law down. You need to lay it down before she does.
Lower it if that is what you really want. You only live once.
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Good heavens!
Sit your wife down and calmly explain to her that you could be out at titty bars, or doing drugs, or even running up some ridiculous bill on ebay for sports memorabilia. Instead, you want to spend a few bucks dressing up your car and making sure it is perfect for you so you can hold onto it for a long time instead of getting bored with it and wasting even more $$ on a newer model.
And next time she wants to buy something, DEFINITELY call her bluff on it. Particularly if it's a cell phone or something else appliance-y. She does not need nicer clothes, or a nicer purse. She does not need better kitchen stuff. She doesn't need anything that she already has, and certainly doesn't need anything that might be an upgrade.
An absolute hallmark of a successful marriage is when it is safe to be yourself at home with your spouse. If she can't even deal with the über basic mod of new springs, she is a pretty lame person. It's not like you are putting in a $10K ICE setup!!
Sit your wife down and calmly explain to her that you could be out at titty bars, or doing drugs, or even running up some ridiculous bill on ebay for sports memorabilia. Instead, you want to spend a few bucks dressing up your car and making sure it is perfect for you so you can hold onto it for a long time instead of getting bored with it and wasting even more $$ on a newer model.
And next time she wants to buy something, DEFINITELY call her bluff on it. Particularly if it's a cell phone or something else appliance-y. She does not need nicer clothes, or a nicer purse. She does not need better kitchen stuff. She doesn't need anything that she already has, and certainly doesn't need anything that might be an upgrade.
An absolute hallmark of a successful marriage is when it is safe to be yourself at home with your spouse. If she can't even deal with the über basic mod of new springs, she is a pretty lame person. It's not like you are putting in a $10K ICE setup!!
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Yeah and clothes are just something that cover your body. A purse is just something to her your stuff in. Shoes are just something to protect your feet. I am sure she has no problem spending money on those things. This is your car and your passion. I would understand if you were messing with her car. Is this where the threats are going to stop. Next hing you know its going to be like "Don't watch football or I'll divorce you." I am sure it is not that bad, but just try to make her see your point of view.pancreas said:
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If that's all it's going to take .... you have bigger problems then lowering your Passat!pancreas said:
Here's a bad non PC joke that this situation reminded me of...
Husband comes home elated...comes in the front door and yells "honey, get your bags packed...I just won the lottery!" Excited, she replies, "that's awesome dear, should I pack for a warm tropical location or a nice ski trip?" From down the hall, he yells, "I don't care, as long as you're out of here by tomorrow morning!"
Husband comes home elated...comes in the front door and yells "honey, get your bags packed...I just won the lottery!" Excited, she replies, "that's awesome dear, should I pack for a warm tropical location or a nice ski trip?" From down the hall, he yells, "I don't care, as long as you're out of here by tomorrow morning!"
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how long have the both of you been married? Sounds like the both of you have some issues that you two need to work out... something more than just the car. I'd sit down and talk to her.
Sounds like a basic money issue - not anything more complicated. That issue just needs to be analyzed and talked about so you both come to some understanding about what items are important and in what order.
Modding a car if you have (the average American's) $8200 in credit card debt you're not paying down is lame.
If you haven't been on a vacation, bought her anything or bettered your financial situation (ie: retirement accounts, emergency account, child's college fund account) in the last year or two then modding a car is lame.
You get the drift: she's really saying she has no interest in mods because she (and consequently YOU) have other priorities. I think you would have mentioned it if she were giving you hell about it while down at D&G, Chanel or Donald Pliner amassing $1000 receipts herself - and of course that would be too easily hypocritical.
I get into these conversations often with my wife from time to time (though we don't mention divorce). She's as inexpensive a wife as I could possible have, BUT she has to go tropical twice a year. And that comes after the bills but before anything else. I think vacations are well down the list from an item like a better/faster/more-fun car, but hey - I like her more than mods, so...
My 2-cents. There is one huge reason she should let you do it: it makes you happy. There are also a lot of reasons why spending the coin on something different might make more sense. If you have all the money you need, she feels like you're treating her right and she just wants to tell you what you can and cannot do with a part of your life that definately makes you happy, then tell her to step off.
But wait a few days - it could just be PMS...
Modding a car if you have (the average American's) $8200 in credit card debt you're not paying down is lame.
If you haven't been on a vacation, bought her anything or bettered your financial situation (ie: retirement accounts, emergency account, child's college fund account) in the last year or two then modding a car is lame.
You get the drift: she's really saying she has no interest in mods because she (and consequently YOU) have other priorities. I think you would have mentioned it if she were giving you hell about it while down at D&G, Chanel or Donald Pliner amassing $1000 receipts herself - and of course that would be too easily hypocritical.
I get into these conversations often with my wife from time to time (though we don't mention divorce). She's as inexpensive a wife as I could possible have, BUT she has to go tropical twice a year. And that comes after the bills but before anything else. I think vacations are well down the list from an item like a better/faster/more-fun car, but hey - I like her more than mods, so...
My 2-cents. There is one huge reason she should let you do it: it makes you happy. There are also a lot of reasons why spending the coin on something different might make more sense. If you have all the money you need, she feels like you're treating her right and she just wants to tell you what you can and cannot do with a part of your life that definately makes you happy, then tell her to step off.
But wait a few days - it could just be PMS...
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