Is my car screwed?

So this one day I was making a u-turn and I hit this chunk of ice in the middle of the road. It caught and stopped my car. I reversed off it and then there was a loud air whistling sound and it was a lot harder to accelerate right? Then after driving around a bunch and trying to figure out what it was that was making the sound. eventually figured it out. Then while trying to repair the hole in the intercooler long enough to get me to the pullnasave got stuck in the ice again. actually two more times total. it was terrible had to dig and pry the car out of an ice ditch twice but it drove just fine afterwards. except the before mentioned hole in the intercooler. anyways long story short burned up all the tranny fluid had to switch out the filter and gasket. Didn't do it right of course and accidentally over tightened some bolts in the tranny pan. fucked that gasket up good then while jacking it up to fix said error. the spacer I used to get some extra height slipped and end up pushing on the transmission. Then while jacking it up I heard really loud pop. Like a really really loud popping sound and I was like fuck and put it on jackstands and looked but didn't see anything... ( however I am not a mechanic by the way. this is the first car I have ever worked on. I knew nothing about being a mechanic before this car and the only things that have saved me so far are my Chiltons manual which has since been nearly destroyed you guys here at the passatworld.com and YouTube videos.) ok so skip ahead a little and now after being broke down for over month I've somehow managed to swap out the transmission and the starter and the crank position sensor and the battery and a relay a couple fuses the coolant (is it OK to use the blue kind? It said European cars so I got it figuring it should be right right?) and tranny fluid new filter and gasket... ok finally get the thing to turn on again the last thing turned out to be a fuse lol. Now from the bellhousing area there is the sound of metal scraping on metal in a rhythmic scrape scrape scrape kind of thing you know? Looking at some of these other posts I've seen I'd say I bent that little plate that goes between the transmission and the engine. it's a thin metal plate idk what it's actually called by the way I just think of it as a thin metal plate. anyways its bent and being scraped against by the three bolts that hold the torque converter to the flexplate inside the bellhousing? OK so the real question here is can I safely drive with it scraping the plate like that or must I replace that plate before I can move forward? Please and thank you also i need to know asap please. also also when the transmission came out it didn't "come out gently " it "fell out" and when I put the new one in I did so with three jacks two pieces of wood and a rope and my car briefly had wooden stilts under its jack stands for extra clearance for the tranny. oh and the exhaust came out last however it did come out before the new one went in yes. the entire subframe was dropped however it went from rear to front instead of front to rear lol and reinstall went same way front to rear instead of rear to front funny shit right? Also I believe there might have been smoke coming from tranny when filling up the fluid however this may have been water build up in tranny before installation happened I think? Is that bad?